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  • Okay this comment makes me think you don’t understand consent.

    If it was SO consensual why are guys not getting choked equally?

    My partner has fetishes I’m not into, but I engage in them because I want to give him the pleasure he gets from them. Is that not consentual because I’m not into the fetish?

    Consent doesn’t mean only doing things you’re into, it means you’re agreeing to it free from any pressure or influence on your decision and you know everything you need to know to make your decision.

    I won’t be choked and I wouldn’t choke someone because it is dangerous and I’m uncomfortable with it regardless of if the other person wants it. But as long as people consent and know the risks I don’t care what others do.

    The answer is it isn’t. It is about dominance and power not a consensual act.

    Dominance and power can absolutely be consentually engaged in. The bdsm community takes consent incredibly seriously.

    There are larger cultural elements behind what people are into that are worth examining. Cultural influence doesn’t necessarily mean it isn’t consentual though.