• Beth@piefed.social
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    2 days ago

    I don’t blame people for avoiding dating apps as a way to meet people. It feels like putting yourself up at the store. It’s exhausting.

    • FatVegan@leminal.space
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      2 days ago

      I always felt weird on dating apps, because it felt like a competition, and i’m the least competitive person on the planet.

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        21 hours ago

        Introducing: co-op dating.

        You put 50 people in a pile and everybody votes who should date whom. You win if anyone leaves happy.

    • merdaverse@lemmy.world
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      2 days ago

      In dating apps you commodify yourself so that they can sell your profile to other users. It feels so incredibly fake that everyone has to market themselves with checklists of positive qualities and good looking photos and witty messages.

      Combine that with marketing yourself for work and all of the subtle competition we have in society, and it’s the perfect recipe for burnout.

    • gmtom@lemmy.world
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      2 days ago

      I weirdly like dating apps as if you don’t care about matches its like online people watching

    • hypnicjerk@lemmy.world
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      2 days ago

      dating apps are dogshit but discord and reddit aren’t terrible places to meet romantic/sexual partners (speaking as an autist who doesn’t socialize irl)