Everything was about her. She’d complain about wanting to change, and if you mentioned it when she was doing the destructive thing she’d get pissed. If you needed something from her you were taking advantage or putting to much on her.
She had some fancy therapy bully words for it, it’s too early for me to remember.
Anyways, removing her from life removed like 90% of all drama.
She could be very fun, but in hindsight awful fucking person.
ETA: probably the worst was she was trying to save money to propose to her partner, but took uber everywhere. We bought a new car. Instead of selling the old one we gave it to her. For free. She would constantly complain about that fucking car all the time. There was a mechanic who wanted to buy it because it was in such good shape for its age.
I’ve got some fancy therapy words for her: “External locus of control.” For her, everything she experiences is being done to her by others. Even if she’s blatantly the one who did something, her brain just cannot accept fault and projects it all onto others. Her childhood was probably a hot mess, and she should go to therapy.
people like this are in therapy, demand others should go to therapy, and tell everyone it’s a lifelong process and if you aren’t in therapy, it’s YOU who is the bad/wrong/immature person.
meanwhile their therapist is basically someone they pay to complain to, and doesn’t actually confront them or help them.
incredibly common to meet people like this where i live. therapy is just a status sorting mechanism for them to glorify themselves they are only it it to feel like they are superior and better than anyone who can’t afford to drop $100s per week in therapy sessions that go no where.
and everyone else ‘not living up to their standards’ is the issue. it’s never that their ‘standards’ are completely insane and often counter-productive to becoming a happier person.
sounds like a lot of single women I meet… they were given so much but they are utterly miserable and resentful it wasn’t more/better.
I dated a girl a few years ago, who complained her parents were selfish jerks, because they ONLY gave her 50K in cash a a gift, and not the Porsche Macan she wanted. And when I pointed out she could easily buy one herself, she told me I was a jerk taking their side… she shouldn’t have to go through AGONY of going to a car dealership and doing all that icky paper work, daddy should have done it for her!
Thats not being a friend though.
That’s why we dumped one of our friends.
Everything was about her. She’d complain about wanting to change, and if you mentioned it when she was doing the destructive thing she’d get pissed. If you needed something from her you were taking advantage or putting to much on her.
She had some fancy therapy bully words for it, it’s too early for me to remember.
Anyways, removing her from life removed like 90% of all drama.
She could be very fun, but in hindsight awful fucking person.
ETA: probably the worst was she was trying to save money to propose to her partner, but took uber everywhere. We bought a new car. Instead of selling the old one we gave it to her. For free. She would constantly complain about that fucking car all the time. There was a mechanic who wanted to buy it because it was in such good shape for its age.
I’ve got some fancy therapy words for her: “External locus of control.” For her, everything she experiences is being done to her by others. Even if she’s blatantly the one who did something, her brain just cannot accept fault and projects it all onto others. Her childhood was probably a hot mess, and she should go to therapy.
people like this are in therapy, demand others should go to therapy, and tell everyone it’s a lifelong process and if you aren’t in therapy, it’s YOU who is the bad/wrong/immature person.
meanwhile their therapist is basically someone they pay to complain to, and doesn’t actually confront them or help them.
incredibly common to meet people like this where i live. therapy is just a status sorting mechanism for them to glorify themselves they are only it it to feel like they are superior and better than anyone who can’t afford to drop $100s per week in therapy sessions that go no where.
and everyone else ‘not living up to their standards’ is the issue. it’s never that their ‘standards’ are completely insane and often counter-productive to becoming a happier person.
Sounds like you killed her
That would be removing her from her life
sounds like a lot of single women I meet… they were given so much but they are utterly miserable and resentful it wasn’t more/better.
I dated a girl a few years ago, who complained her parents were selfish jerks, because they ONLY gave her 50K in cash a a gift, and not the Porsche Macan she wanted. And when I pointed out she could easily buy one herself, she told me I was a jerk taking their side… she shouldn’t have to go through AGONY of going to a car dealership and doing all that icky paper work, daddy should have done it for her!