IME people with friends like this are clinging onto the past memories of how they were besties in college or something like that, without ever realizing the person now is nothing like they were 10-20 years ago, and their life is a product of their choices, not anyone else’s.
I have had some friends the past few years I had to let go because instead of taking responsibility for themselves and their unhappiness they have created in their life due to their repeated poor choices, they went off the deep end into anti-vax conspiracy nonsense, or otherwise totally delusional about themselves. It is sad, but once you are older you realize people only change when they take responsibility for their choices and actions and their consequences. Healthy people avoid drama and own up to mistakes, they don’t seek it out and revel in victim hood.
Stop being their friend. Save yourself the drama.
IME people with friends like this are clinging onto the past memories of how they were besties in college or something like that, without ever realizing the person now is nothing like they were 10-20 years ago, and their life is a product of their choices, not anyone else’s.
I have had some friends the past few years I had to let go because instead of taking responsibility for themselves and their unhappiness they have created in their life due to their repeated poor choices, they went off the deep end into anti-vax conspiracy nonsense, or otherwise totally delusional about themselves. It is sad, but once you are older you realize people only change when they take responsibility for their choices and actions and their consequences. Healthy people avoid drama and own up to mistakes, they don’t seek it out and revel in victim hood.